Well+Being Holistic Mental Health
Emotional Health & Wellness Tips From The Therapy Couch And Other Places
Kimberly Seelbrede, LCSW, is a New York State licensed psychotherapist and women’s emotional health expert whose work weaves together the science of the mind, the biology of the brain, and the art of holistic integrative wellness. With nearly two decades of clinical experience, she helps women in midlife navigate the profound emotional, hormonal, and identity transitions that often surface during perimenopause and menopause. In addition, she works with couples to improve communication, strengthen emotional intimacy, and navigate changes in sexual health, relationship dynamics, and shared life stressors. She works with men who are experiencing personal and professional crises, life transitions, stress, mood changes, or relationship challenges. Her approach blends evidence-based psychotherapy with holistic mind-body interventions, including EMDR, Internal Family Systems (IFS), Somatic Experiencing® techniques, mindfulness, and lifestyle medicine — to address the full spectrum of emotional, physical, and spiritual wellbeing. Disclaimer: I am a licensed and fully credentialed mental health provider, but I am not a medical doctor. The information provided on this website is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always consult a qualified healthcare professional regarding any medical or health-related concerns, including perimenopause, menopause, hormone therapy, or other chronic medical conditions. Reliance on the content on this site is solely at your own risk.
How the Body Keeps the Score in Love: Somatic Healing After Relationship Trauma
Because the Body Remembers What the Mind Tries to Forget
When a relationship leaves you anxious, hypervigilant, or numb, it’s not just heartbreak—it’s your nervous system remembering pain. Even long after you’ve left an unhealthy dynamic, your body may still brace for conflict, shrink at raised voices, or tense up when someone gets too close.
That’s because trauma—especially relational or attachment trauma—doesn’t just live in the mind. It lives in the body: in your breath, posture, heart rate, and gut. Somatic therapy helps you reconnect with the body’s wisdom, teaching it that safety, love, and trust can coexist again.
Why Trauma Healing Must Begin in the Body
Over the years, I’ve come to trust what neuroscience, attachment theory, and countless clients have shown me: you can’t think your way out of trauma. Traditional talk therapies and CBT-based approaches can offer insight and temporary relief, but trauma isn’t stored in logic—it’s stored in the body. It lives in the muscles that tighten, the breath that shortens, the stomach that clenches each time safety feels uncertain.
That’s why my bias—if you can call it that—is toward somatic healing. The body tells the truth long before the mind can find words. And until the body feels safe, no amount of cognitive reframing can create lasting change.