Do you lose yourself in your relationships? Codependency often begins as care—but quietly evolves into self-erasure. In this NYC therapy practice, we explore the subtle and not-so-subtle ways you've been taught to over-function, over-give, and dismiss yourself.

If your sense of worth is entangled with being needed, being chosen, or keeping the peace at all costs, this work offers a different path. Codependent patterns frequently originate in early relational experiences and are reinforced through unmet needs, attachment wounds, and chronic self-abandonment. Codependency therapy focuses on restoring self-trust, autonomy, and the capacity for mutual, balanced relationships. Codependency therapy supports adults who find themselves over-giving, people-pleasing, or losing themselves in relationships. This work gently uncovers the roots of these patterns and helps you build a stronger, more secure relationship with yourself.

With a trauma-informed, relational approach, we untangle old patterns, clarify boundaries, and reclaim your voice—not only in relationships, but in how you live, love, and lead. This work is for New Yorkers who are ready to step out of roles that no longer serve them and into a life that feels more authentic, balanced, and self-directed.

Psychodynamic psychotherapy, Internal Family Systems (IFS), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Somatic approaches, and EMDR therapy are integrated to help you move beyond self-defeating patterns and cultivate healthier relationships with yourself and others.

How to Find the Best Codependency Therapist in New York City

Finding an experienced codependency therapist in New York City means connecting with someone who understands patterns of over-responsibility, people-pleasing, and chronic self-abandonment that often shape codependent relationships.

The right therapist will help you:

• Recognize unhealthy relational dynamics

• Develop and maintain stronger boundaries

• Cultivate self-compassion and self-trust

• Identify underlying attachment wounds or trauma

• Address related concerns such as anxiety, depression, or relationship distress

In a fast-paced, high-demand city like NYC, working with a skilled therapist who provides a safe, nonjudgmental, and structured space can make a meaningful difference. Feeling understood, supported, and equipped from the first session often matters more than credentials alone. With the right fit, therapy becomes a space to build emotional resilience, healthier relationships, and a stronger sense of self.

What Is Codependency?

Codependency is a relational pattern in which your sense of identity, worth, or emotional stability becomes overly tied to another person. Many people with codependent tendencies habitually place others’ needs above their own, struggle to identify or express personal desires, and derive purpose from being needed.

Codependency can show up socially, emotionally, and physically. Over time, you may lose touch with your own preferences, values, and inner experience.

One central feature of codependency is when your sense of self becomes dependent on external approval or validation.

Common Signs of Codependency

• Intense fear of abandonment or rejection

• Poor or inconsistent boundaries

• Difficulty identifying your own needs or desires

• Trouble asserting yourself

• People-pleasing

• Over-functioning or caretaking

• Needing to be liked by everyone

• Difficulty enjoying life outside of a relationship

• Feeling incomplete when not partnered

• Lack of a clear independent identity

• Providing support to others at the expense of your own health and emotional wellbeing

How Therapy Helps with Codependency

Therapy helps you begin to feel safe enough to:

• Identify your needs and desires

• Assert yourself without excessive guilt

• Develop healthier boundaries

• Build self-worth independent of others’ approval

• Tolerate emotional closeness without losing yourself

• Shift long-standing relational patterns

CBT, EMDR therapy, Somatic Experiencing, and psychodynamic psychotherapy are especially effective for codependency because they address both behavioral patterns and the underlying emotional and relational roots of this coping style.

Family therapy or relationship counseling may also be helpful as loved ones adjust to your growth and changing boundaries.

About Codependency Therapy in NYC

This practice provides psychotherapy and wellness services throughout New York State. Treatment is individualized to your physical, emotional, cognitive, and spiritual needs.

I work integratively with a range of evidence-based and trauma-informed approaches, including:

• EMDR Therapy

• Psychodynamic Psychotherapy

• Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)

• Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)

• Internal Family Systems (IFS)

• Solution-Focused Therapy

• Holistic Mind–Body Medicine

Codependency Therapy – Frequently Asked Questions

What is codependency therapy?

Codependency therapy is a form of psychotherapy that helps individuals understand and shift relational patterns characterized by over-responsibility, people-pleasing, difficulty with boundaries, and prioritizing others’ needs at the expense of one’s own. Therapy focuses on restoring balance, agency, and healthier connection.

What does codependency look like in adults?

In adults, codependency often appears as chronic caretaking, difficulty saying no, fear of conflict or abandonment, emotional over-investment in others, or a sense of identity that revolves around meeting others’ needs. Many people function highly while feeling internally exhausted or disconnected from themselves.

Is codependency the same as being caring or empathetic?

No. Being caring or empathetic involves mutuality and choice. Codependency typically involves loss of balance, where care becomes compulsive, driven by anxiety or fear, and comes at a personal cost. Therapy helps clarify this distinction and restore healthier relational dynamics.

Is codependency related to trauma or early relationships?

Often, yes. Codependent patterns frequently develop in response to early relational environments where safety, attention, or emotional connection felt inconsistent. Therapy explores how these early adaptations continue to shape adult relationships and sense of self.

How does an integrative approach help with codependency?

An integrative approach addresses both relational patterns and the nervous system responses that sustain them. Therapy may include trauma-informed psychotherapy, EMDR-informed approaches, attachment-focused work, and practices that support boundary awareness, self-regulation, and emotional resilience.

Can EMDR help with codependent patterns?

EMDR may be helpful when codependent behaviors are linked to unresolved experiences, attachment wounds, or deeply held beliefs about worth, responsibility, or safety. It is used selectively and within a broader therapeutic framework when clinically appropriate.

Do I need to be in a relationship to work on codependency?

No. Codependent patterns can appear in romantic relationships, family dynamics, friendships, and professional roles. Therapy can be effective whether or not you are currently in a relationship.

Is codependency therapy only for people in unhealthy relationships?

No. Many individuals seeking codependency therapy are in relationships that appear stable or successful on the surface but feel emotionally imbalanced or draining. Therapy helps address patterns even when relationships are not overtly dysfunctional.

Is telehealth effective for codependency therapy?

Yes. Telehealth therapy can be very effective for working with relational patterns. The consistency and privacy of remote sessions often support reflection, emotional awareness, and practice of new relational boundaries.

Do you provide codependency therapy for New York clients via telehealth?

Yes. Codependency therapy is offered to individuals located in New York through secure telehealth sessions, in accordance with state licensure requirements.

Who do you typically work with around codependency?

I often work with adults who are capable, self-aware, and relationally oriented, including professionals and midlife individuals who find themselves over-functioning in relationships and seeking a healthier sense of self and connection.

How long does codependency therapy take?

There is no fixed timeline. Some clients notice shifts within months, while others choose longer-term therapy to address deeper attachment patterns. Therapy is paced collaboratively and tailored to individual goals.

How do I get started with codependency therapy?

You can begin by requesting an initial consultation. This allows us to explore your concerns, clarify goals, and determine whether codependency therapy is the right fit.

Therapy begins with an initial consultation where we explore your concerns, history, and goals. Many people experience relief simply from being heard and understood. This consultation also helps determine which therapeutic approaches are best suited to support your healing.