When conflict becomes chronic or distance quietly grows, it often reflects unmet emotional needs. I work with relationships to explore the deeper patterns shaping their interactions, so new ways of relating can emerge. ideal for dynamic high-functioning couples with stress, betrayal, High-Conflict Relationships & Couples in Crisis.

I specialize in couples healing—working with partners facing high-conflict dynamics, destructive relational patterns, sexual difficulties, betrayal, and acute relationship crises, both personal and professional. Many of the couples I work with are successful, driven, and outwardly high-functioning, yet privately struggling with disconnection, resentment, loss of intimacy, or escalating conflict.

This boutique NYC practice offers trauma-informed couples therapy and relationship counseling designed to address the root causes of relational distress—not just surface-level communication problems. The work focuses on healing attachment wounds, resolving relational trauma, restoring emotional and sexual intimacy, and breaking repetitive patterns that keep couples stuck.

When Relationships Reach a Breaking Point

Couples often seek therapy after years of suffering—feeling confused, betrayed, misunderstood, lonely, resentful, or emotionally disconnected. Despite best intentions, partners may find themselves repeating the same arguments, withdrawing from intimacy, or locked in power struggles that feel impossible to resolve.

Through attachment-based and trauma-informed couples therapy, partners are guided to:

• Understand each other at a deeper emotional level

• Identify unconscious patterns rooted in earlier life experiences

• Recognize how past wounds are reenacted in the present relationship

• Shift from blame and defensiveness to insight, accountability, and repair

These entrenched dynamics—what psychology refers to as repetition compulsion—can quietly sabotage even the most loving relationships. Therapy helps interrupt these cycles so couples can relate in a present-day, reality-based way rather than through the lens of old wounds.

Specialized Couples Therapy for High-Conflict & High-Functioning Couples

I work extensively with couples navigating:

• High-conflict and destructive relationship patterns

• Infidelity, betrayal, and breaches of trust

• Sexual challenges, mismatched desire, or loss of intimacy

• Professional or financial stress impacting the relationship

• Major life transitions, loss, or identity shifts

• Power struggles in successful, driven, or high-pressure couples

In a calm, confidential, and highly skilled therapeutic space, couples are supported in untangling what hurts, rebuilding emotional safety, and restoring connection. This work goes far beyond problem-solving—it focuses on repairing attachment, regulating emotional intensity, and intentionally rebuilding intimacy and trust.

An Integrative, Trauma-Informed Approach to Couples Therapy

Couples therapy here is deep, structured, and customized. The work integrates advanced, evidence-based modalities tailored to your relationship’s needs, including:

• Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)

• Internal Family Systems (IFS)

• Psychodynamic & psychoanalytic couples therapy

• EMDR therapy for relationship trauma and betrayal

• Somatic and attachment-based therapy

• Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)

• Mindfulness and nervous system regulation

This integrative approach helps couples:

• Regulate emotional reactivity

• Feel less “stuck”

• Heal attachment injuries

• Improve communication without escalation

• Restore emotional and sexual intimacy

• Develop a more secure, resilient bond

• Feel less resentful

How can couple therapy improve my relationship?

Couples therapy offers a structured, emotionally intelligent space to address the complexities that inevitably arise in intimate relationships. Partners may seek therapy to improve communication, resolve long-standing resentments, navigate conflict, or gain a deeper understanding of one another. At times, couples enter therapy proactively; more often, they arrive during periods of significant strain or relational crisis.

Many couples seek support following a relationship rupture—such as infidelity, emotional or sexual affairs, financial secrecy, or other breaches of trust that fundamentally destabilize the bond. In other cases, trust erodes more subtly, when a partner feels unprotected, dismissed, or unsupported during critical moments, including interactions with extended family or during conflict. While these experiences may be less overt than infidelity, they can be equally damaging to emotional safety and relational security.

Communication difficulties are frequently at the core of relational distress. Early life experiences, attachment wounds, and unresolved trauma can heighten emotional reactivity, making it difficult for partners to express needs without triggering defensiveness, withdrawal, or escalation. Over time, couples may find themselves trapped in repetitive, painful patterns that feel impossible to interrupt.

Trauma-informed couples therapy helps partners identify these self-defeating relational dynamics and understand their origins. Through careful, compassionate work, couples learn to communicate in ways that foster empathy, curiosity, accountability, and respect. The goal is not simply to reduce conflict, but to restore emotional safety, rebuild trust, and create a more secure and fulfilling connection.

The Clinical Expertise Needed When Relationships Are Under Strain

• Strong emotional regulation skills

• Ability to manage escalation and trauma responses

• Sophisticated attachment and trauma training

• Capacity to hold complexity without taking sides

Couples Therapy & Relationship Counseling Tailored for NYC Life

New York City couples face unique relational pressures, including:

• High-stress careers and long work hours

• Chronic busyness and emotional exhaustion

• Financial pressure and limited personal space

• Parenting stress in a high-cost city

• Burnout, resentment, and emotional distance

• Repetitive conflict that never fully resolves

Couples therapy provides a structured space to slow down, reconnect, and repair—without judgment or taking sides.

Online Couples Therapy in NYC & New York State

All couples therapy services are offered via secure telehealth for NYC and New York State clients. Online couples therapy provides:

• Discretion and privacy for high-profile or busy couples

• Flexible scheduling across locations

• Continuity of care without commuting

• A safe, contained environment for emotionally intense work

Virtual therapy offers the same depth, structure, and clinical rigor as in-person sessions.

Couples Therapy for Divorce, Separation & High-Conflict Dynamics

For couples navigating separation, divorce, or extreme conflict, therapy can help with:

• Managing intense emotions and communication breakdowns

• Reducing escalation and reactivity

• Establishing boundaries and emotional safety

• Supporting respectful co-parenting

• Processing betrayal, grief, and loss

• Making thoughtful, grounded decisions about the future

Trauma-informed divorce and separation support is available for couples who need containment, clarity, and stabilization during a volatile time.

Inclusive Relationship Counseling

Experience includes working with:

• Monogamous and married couples

• Open relationships and consensual non-monogamy

• Polyamorous partnerships

• Kink-affirming and alternative lifestyles

• Same-sex and queer couples

• Blended families and co-parenting relationships

All work centers on consent, emotional safety, boundaries, and secure attachment, regardless of relationship structure.

Is Couples Therapy Right for You?

Couples therapy may be appropriate if you:

• Feel emotionally disconnected or chronically misunderstood

• Argue repeatedly without resolution

• Struggle with trust, betrayal, or secrecy

• Experience sexual or intimacy challenges

• Feel stuck in the same painful patterns

• Want clarity about whether to repair or separate

• Desire a deeper, more conscious partnership

fAQs: Frequently Asked Questions About Couples Therapy in New York City

What is couples therapy?
Couples therapy is a form of psychotherapy that helps partners improve communication, resolve conflict, strengthen emotional connection, and better understand relationship patterns. Couples therapy focuses on both individual and relational dynamics.

Who can benefit from couples therapy?
Couples therapy may be helpful for partners experiencing:

• Communication difficulties

• Recurrent conflict or disconnection

• Trust issues or infidelity

• Emotional or physical intimacy concerns

• Life transitions or stressors

• Parenting disagreements

• Differences in values or goals

• Pre-marital or commitment concerns

Couples therapy is not only for relationships in crisis—many couples seek therapy proactively.

Do we need to be on the brink of separation to start couples therapy?
No. Couples therapy is often most effective when partners seek support early, before problems become entrenched.

What approaches are used in couples therapy?
Depending on clinical needs, couples therapy may integrate:

• Emotionally focused therapy (EFT)-informed approaches

• Psychodynamic therapy

• Attachment-based therapy

• Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) strategies

• Trauma-informed psychotherapy

• Communication and relational skills training

• Integrative psychotherapy

Treatment is tailored to each couple.

Is couples therapy evidence-based?
Yes. Couples therapy relies on established, research-supported models and clinical best practices.

What happens in a couples therapy session?
Sessions focus on understanding patterns, improving communication, identifying underlying emotional needs, and developing healthier ways of relating. Both partners have space to be heard.

How long does couples therapy take?
Length of therapy varies depending on goals and complexity. Some couples benefit from short-term work, while others engage in longer-term therapy.

Can couples therapy help after infidelity or betrayal?
Yes. Couples therapy can support healing, rebuilding trust, and clarifying whether and how the relationship can move forward.

Do you work with high-functioning and professional couples?
Yes. Many high-functioning individuals and professional couples seek therapy to address stress, communication issues, and work-life balance impacting their relationship.

Can couples therapy be done via telehealth?
Yes. Couples therapy is offered via secure, HIPAA-compliant telehealth for clients in Manhattan, Brooklyn, Queens, and throughout New York State.

Do you also see partners individually?
In some cases, individual sessions may be integrated when clinically appropriate. This is discussed collaboratively.

Is couples therapy the same as relationship coaching?
No. Couples therapy is psychotherapy provided by a licensed mental health clinician and may include assessment, diagnosis, and treatment planning. Coaching does not involve psychotherapy.

What if my partner is hesitant about therapy?
It is common for partners to feel unsure. An initial consultation can help clarify goals and determine whether couples therapy feels like a good fit.

Can couples therapy be combined with individual therapy?
Yes. Many clients engage in both individual and couples therapy, either concurrently or at different stages.

How do we get started with couples therapy in NYC?
You may request an initial couples therapy consultation to discuss your concerns and determine next steps.

Schedule a Consultation

If you’re seeking a highly experienced, trauma-informed couples therapist in NYC—with the ability to work skillfully with complex, high-conflict, and high-functioning couples—a consultation can help determine the best path forward.

Reach out today to begin rebuilding connection, trust, and intimacy with intention.