Do you lose yourself in your relationships? Codependency often begins as care—but quietly evolves into self-erasure. In this NYC therapy practice, we explore the subtle and not-so-subtle ways you've been taught to over-function, over-give, and dismiss yourself.

If your sense of worth is entangled with being needed, being chosen, or keeping the peace at all costs, this work offers a different path. Codependent patterns frequently originate in early relational experiences and are reinforced through unmet needs, attachment wounds, and chronic self-abandonment. Codependency therapy focuses on restoring self-trust, autonomy, and the capacity for mutual, balanced relationships. Codependency therapy supports adults who find themselves over-giving, people-pleasing, or losing themselves in relationships. This work gently uncovers the roots of these patterns and helps you build a stronger, more secure relationship with yourself.

With a trauma-informed, relational approach, we untangle old patterns, clarify boundaries, and reclaim your voice—not only in relationships, but in how you live, love, and lead. This work is for New Yorkers who are ready to step out of roles that no longer serve them and into a life that feels more authentic, balanced, and self-directed.

Psychodynamic psychotherapy, Internal Family Systems (IFS), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Somatic approaches, and EMDR therapy are integrated to help you move beyond self-defeating patterns and cultivate healthier relationships with yourself and others.

How to Find the Best Codependency Therapist in New York City

Finding an experienced codependency therapist in New York City means connecting with someone who understands patterns of over-responsibility, people-pleasing, and chronic self-abandonment that often shape codependent relationships.

The right therapist will help you:

• Recognize unhealthy relational dynamics

• Develop and maintain stronger boundaries

• Cultivate self-compassion and self-trust

• Identify underlying attachment wounds or trauma

• Address related concerns such as anxiety, depression, or relationship distress

In a fast-paced, high-demand city like NYC, working with a skilled therapist who provides a safe, nonjudgmental, and structured space can make a meaningful difference. Feeling understood, supported, and equipped from the first session often matters more than credentials alone. With the right fit, therapy becomes a space to build emotional resilience, healthier relationships, and a stronger sense of self.

What Is Codependency?

Codependency is a relational pattern in which your sense of identity, worth, or emotional stability becomes overly tied to another person. Many people with codependent tendencies habitually place others’ needs above their own, struggle to identify or express personal desires, and derive purpose from being needed.

Codependency can show up socially, emotionally, and physically. Over time, you may lose touch with your own preferences, values, and inner experience.

One central feature of codependency is when your sense of self becomes dependent on external approval or validation.

Common Signs of Codependency

• Intense fear of abandonment or rejection

• Poor or inconsistent boundaries

• Difficulty identifying your own needs or desires

• Trouble asserting yourself

• People-pleasing

• Over-functioning or caretaking

• Needing to be liked by everyone

• Difficulty enjoying life outside of a relationship

• Feeling incomplete when not partnered

• Lack of a clear independent identity

• Providing support to others at the expense of your own health and emotional wellbeing

How Therapy Helps with Codependency

Therapy helps you begin to feel safe enough to:

• Identify your needs and desires

• Assert yourself without excessive guilt

• Develop healthier boundaries

• Build self-worth independent of others’ approval

• Tolerate emotional closeness without losing yourself

• Shift long-standing relational patterns

CBT, EMDR therapy, Somatic Experiencing, and psychodynamic psychotherapy are especially effective for codependency because they address both behavioral patterns and the underlying emotional and relational roots of this coping style.

Family therapy or relationship counseling may also be helpful as loved ones adjust to your growth and changing boundaries.

About Codependency Therapy in NYC

This practice provides psychotherapy and wellness services throughout New York State. Treatment is individualized to your physical, emotional, cognitive, and spiritual needs.

I work integratively with a range of evidence-based and trauma-informed approaches, including:

• EMDR Therapy

• Psychodynamic Psychotherapy

• Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)

• Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)

• Internal Family Systems (IFS)

• Solution-Focused Therapy

• Holistic Mind–Body Medicine

Therapy begins with an initial consultation where we explore your concerns, history, and goals. Many people experience relief simply from being heard and understood. This consultation also helps determine which therapeutic approaches are best suited to support your healing.