Well+Being Holistic Mental Health
Emotional Health & Wellness Tips From The Therapy Couch And Other Places
Kimberly Seelbrede, LCSW, is a New York State licensed psychotherapist and women’s emotional health expert whose work weaves together the science of the mind, the biology of the brain, and the art of holistic integrative wellness. With nearly two decades of clinical experience, she helps women in midlife navigate the profound emotional, hormonal, and identity transitions that often surface during perimenopause and menopause. In addition, she works with couples to improve communication, strengthen emotional intimacy, and navigate changes in sexual health, relationship dynamics, and shared life stressors. She works with men who are experiencing personal and professional crises, life transitions, stress, mood changes, or relationship challenges. Her approach blends evidence-based psychotherapy with holistic mind-body interventions, including EMDR, Internal Family Systems (IFS), Somatic Experiencing® techniques, mindfulness, and lifestyle medicine — to address the full spectrum of emotional, physical, and spiritual wellbeing. Disclaimer: I am a licensed and fully credentialed mental health provider, but I am not a medical doctor. The information provided on this website is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always consult a qualified healthcare professional regarding any medical or health-related concerns, including perimenopause, menopause, hormone therapy, or other chronic medical conditions. Reliance on the content on this site is solely at your own risk.
Loving Again After Trauma: How to Build Safe, Conscious Relationships After Abuse
Because Healing Isn’t Just About Leaving The Past—It’s About Learning To Love Without Fear
In my therapy practice, I regularly meet people who are trying to learn how to love again—after betrayal, loss, or the slow unraveling of trust. They’re thoughtful, self-aware, and often successful in many areas of life, yet intimacy feels like the final frontier: something longed for, but fraught with fear. Some are recovering from toxic or narcissistic relationships; others are emerging from years of emotional disconnection or avoidance. What unites them is a quiet hope—the desire to feel safe in closeness again, to open without losing themselves. Our work together isn’t about rushing into love, but about relearning how to trust your body, your instincts, and your capacity to be known. Love, when approached through healing, becomes less about finding someone new and more about finding your way back to yourself.
After surviving an emotionally abusive or traumatic relationship, the idea of loving again can feel impossible.
Part of you may crave connection, while another part wants to run at the first sign of closeness. You may long for intimacy—but fear the loss of autonomy. You may trust your heart, yet doubt your instincts. This ambivalence isn’t a flaw; it’s a nervous system learning to trust again. Healing from relationship trauma isn’t only about letting go of the past—it’s about relearning how to love in a way that feels safe, mutual, and fully alive.