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Letting Go, Moving On: Emotional Support For Divorcing Women
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Letting Go, Moving On: Emotional Support For Divorcing Women

If you're reading this, you're probably in the thick of it—and whether it’s a low-conflict divorce, or a complex high-conflict divorce, it can still shatter your world and break your heart! Maybe the papers have been filed. Maybe you’re sleeping on the “wrong” side of the bed. Maybe your world looks nothing like it did a year ago. Divorce isn't just a legal shift—it’s a full-body experience. It's grief, fear, freedom, confusion, clarity, exhaustion, and sometimes all of that before lunch. And if you're a woman walking through it, the weight can feel like yours to carry alone. I’m a licensed psychotherapist from New York City, I help women feel strong and empowered as the move through the separation and divorce process.

Let’s be real: the world still often expects women to be the emotional glue. To hold it all together for the kids, for your friends, for your job. To not unravel. But here’s the truth I want you to hear: you’re allowed to fall apart, and you’re strong as hell for showing up anyway. Divorce is a kind of emotional surgery. It cuts deep. But it also clears space. It asks hard questions like, Who am I now? What do I want? What parts of myself have I been ignoring just to survive? These questions are painful—but also powerful. You don’t have to answer them all at once. And you don’t have to do it alone.

In my New York therapy practice with women navigating divorce, I see the raw moments: crying in the car, re-learning how to eat alone, wondering how to explain things to the kids, waking up at 2am with that tight-chest panic. But I also see the strength that quietly grows beneath the rubble. The woman who starts to hear her own voice again. The one who starts making decisions from a place of self-worth, not fear. The one who no longer apologizes for taking up space.

Therapy isn’t about fixing you—because you’re not broken. It’s a space to breathe. To be seen without judgment. To figure out what healing looks like on your terms. Whether you’re angry, numb, grieving, relieved, or cycling through all of it in a day—I’ve got space for that. You don’t need to show up perfect. You just need to show up. So if you're walking through divorce and feel like you’re carrying too much, I want you to know this: You’re allowed to ask for help. You’re allowed to take up space. You’re allowed to build something better than what you lost. You are not alone. And you’re stronger than you think. If you're looking for support through divorce or want to explore how therapy might help during this transition, I offer a compassionate, nonjudgmental space where you can start to rebuild. Reach out when you're ready.

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Difficult People: Saving Yourself From The Crazymakers In Your Life
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Difficult People: Saving Yourself From The Crazymakers In Your Life

We all have challenging people in our lives. The individuals who ignore our boundaries, seek constant attention, create drama, set traps, and leave a trail of destruction, ultimately causing us to feel confused, invalidated, and overwhelmed by the resulting chaos. If this sounds familiar, you are likely struggling to manage difficult people in your life. Sometimes, avoiding these individuals is not an option, which presents a real challenge. They are your exes, colleagues, friends, siblings, parents. Perhaps your life demands regular contact with them, leaving you with feelings of dread and terror and sometimes actual physical symptoms. 

Difficult people drain your energy and consistently engage in controlling, destructive, manipulative, and reckless behaviors. They leave a path of destruction in their wake.

They often create traps for you, making it appear as though there is no way to win. They demand attention and create drama and more drama. Their behaviors show up as excessive negativity, anger, aggression, addictions, recklessness, splitting (extremes of good/bad), pathological envy and jealousy, grandiosity, trap-setting, gaslighting, and sabotage. They may already have an actual psychiatric diagnosis, such as Histrionic, Borderline, Narcissistic, or Antisocial Personality Disorder, and behaviors symptomatic of trauma, abuse, and substance abuse. 

You experience fatigue and you’re overwhelmed from being in their negative vibration, and the practical aspects of cleaning up their messes can feel daunting. They don't care who they hurt with their aggression and their destructive nature, even their children. You may even wonder if you are the crazy one as they engage in projection, shaming, and blaming behaviors. Essentially, they play the victim, turning things around in a nanosecond. What follows are some important things to remember:

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