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What Therapists Working With Mid-Life Women Often Hear During Midlife and Menopause
We talk a lot about Melani and her “We Do Not Care Anymore” Movement—and yes, we love her! She truly gets it. But this doesn’t necessarily have to mean “letting yourself go.” Sometimes, it’s simply about expressing yourself authentically and reserving your energy for what truly matters to you—by choice, not by default.
For decades, the struggles of perimenopause and menopause—insomnia, hot flashes, brain fog, and mood swings—were often endured quietly, with women suffering in isolation. Today, thanks to Melani Sanders, founder of the We Do Not Care Club (WDNC) on social media, millions of women have a vibrant space to voice their experiences, share relatable challenges, and celebrate the humor and honesty of midlife transitions.
If you spend any time on Instagram, and your algorithm allows, you’ve met Melani. Melani has created a movement that resonates deeply with women navigating midlife, capturing the humor, courage, and liberation that come with embracing authenticity. Known for her distinctive style—often spotted with multiple pairs of readers dangling from her body—she embodies playfulness alongside wisdom, reminding women that self-expression and confidence can coexist at any stage of life. Her work celebrates emotional honesty, boundary-setting, and self-alignment, offering a voice that many women feel mirrors their own inner experience. Beyond trendiness, Melani provides a supportive, validating framework for women to reclaim energy, make intentional choices, and approach life with clarity and confidence.
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She comes to therapy because she’s suffering, though on the surface, no one would know. Her best friend seems to be sailing through menopause without a hitch, still sleeping soundly, still herself, while she quietly unravels. Her body aches in ways she can’t explain. Anxiety hums beneath everything. Sleep, once reliable, has turned against her. Mornings bring exhaustion; evenings bring dread. She’s lost interest in things she used to love, and she can’t name exactly what’s wrong — only that life feels dimmer, smaller, harder to hold together. Her husband says he misses her. She scrolls through advice columns and doctors’ websites but finds little that truly fits. She now mostly relies on Instagram and Facebook groups for support and additional resources, but it’s a challenge to know who and what to trust. The truth is, every woman’s experience of midlife is different. For some, it’s a gentle recalibration; for others, it’s a full-body scream, a neurological, hormonal, and emotional storm that touches every corner of being. In therapy, we begin by naming what’s happening, lifting it from the realm of shame or mystery and into understanding and knowledge so healing can finally begin.
As a psychotherapist and coach licensed in New York who works extensively with women in midlife and beyond, I see how often confusion, misinformation, and outdated medical narratives add unnecessary suffering to an already complex life stage.